This book sure seems focussed on making sure we connect with people and build relationships! I don’t disagree at all but I wonder if Downs had only mentioned it on one of the 100 days of this devotional book we’d all just gloss over it with an earnest nod (while not doing much about it practically).

When I consider the themes of what she’s written on the topic so far, it seems to me they are: loving others, being loved by others and not giving up on others (or ourselves).

Today, Downs urges us to ask someone for a coffee date, to put ourselves out there (with our spouse if we’re married, or with a potential someone if we’re not). While the challenge may seem bland for the marrieds and nauseating for the singles, perhaps the challenge is actually to not stop pursuing. We’re urged to keep pursuing relationships both with those we already know and with those we don’t yet know. Don’t settle to stay at home with a book/tv remote/social media/all three when we could be bravely choosing relationship. It’s brave to put ourselves out there (even with our spouse) if we think we may get rejected in some fashion. It’s brave to make the first move towards forgiveness or reconciliation or passion. It’s brave to be vulnerable: if the outcome was known beforehand it might not be so brave. Remember too even when we get turned down, God may have plans for that rejection both in us and in the other person (even if we don’t immediately see the purpose).

Be brave: put yourself out there.

Be brave: don’t give up pursuing friendships (even if the person isn’t the same each time).

Be brave: love others.

Be brave: let yourself be loved.

It’s the second part of the greatest commandment, after all. (Luke 10:27)